Beware of Psychological Responses to Frustrated Job Searches
It is said that McDonald’s, KFC’s recruitment position, is very popular in North Tsinghua.
It’s hard to say how these arrogant people have turned the “vacation place for work” into “a popular choice for job hunting”.
However, from the perspective of the normal psychological trend, such a big change must have experienced relatively equal or even greater setbacks, which can only be formed after a gap.
After the job search is frustrated, everyone’s mind must be more or less sharpened and tested to achieve a new balance.
1. I feel humiliated and do not want to see my classmates, friends, especially those who have a successful career.
“Now I seem to be very sensitive. If anyone asks me” Signed or not “, I immediately feel that he is making fun of me, as if he has suffered a lot.
“There are several reasons for humiliation. First, there are indeed people who suspect that you are insulting your personality. This is obviously not your fault. You can fight back or wait for him to run into a wall. Second, the child’s psychology is over-lovedTherefore, being rejected once is regarded as humiliation.
Well, I can be sure that it is you, not the society, who should adjust, right. This is a set of frustration training. Third, the greedy mentality, you should run into good things, otherwise it will be humiliated.
2. Inferiority and self-confidence are completely lost, and I feel hopeless about the future, and even doubt that I will always find a job.
“My previous thought was: There is no work in the world that we can’t do!
Now my thought is: Is there anything else I can do?
Even the hotel front desk has work experience, I can’t do it.
“Some people do not inferiority because of being rejected. People who are intoxicated with inferiority can even humble themselves if they succeed:” Look, my classmates have entered a foreign company, but I only found a job in a private enterprise.
“Inferiority has formed psychological inertia, and his mental energy and self-evaluation have flowed indiscriminately to a lower place.
There are two ways for people with inferiority: to live miserably in inferiority, or to view inferiority as a lever for growth, to find their focus on weightlessness, and to find their own employment.
Can’t apply for a secretary, let’s not argue about this, can’t we just change another corner?
3. I don’t have a sense of control over the future, I feel that everything is unpredictable, and I don’t know what I want to do.
“When I first graduated, I still ran to the talent market every day and submitted my resume online, but now more than half a year has passed and no success has been achieved.
I began to wonder if those efforts were useful. Where should I write a resume?
“Confusion is the dizziness that comes from facing freedom.
We should thank Confused, because Confused Synonym is a place for multiple choices.
Will a person who has everything prescribed be confused?
Now all you have to do is not follow the blindly in the confusion, lest you lose your soul.
Constantly trying in the confusion, bumping into the wall, summing up experience, the way out will appear in the search up and down.
4. Feelings of incompetence and helplessness feel like everything is returning to zero, the knowledge I have learned, and all my practical experience have become useless. I ca n’t find the direction for help and support.
“I went to apply for a telecommunications company, written test in Chinese and English, one-on-one Q & A, interpretation, crowd interview, psychological test, department manager interview, even after going through 6 passes, it seemed to have peeled off a layer, as if everything I learned before has changedIt becomes blank and suddenly nothing will happen.
“Great, someone finally told you that what you learned in school is useless!
Otherwise, if you go to graduate school or blog, you still have to run into a wall a few years later, or you have to be “useless.”
Quickly cultivate the ability to create benefits for everyone!
5. Feeling guilty I feel sorry for my parents, I am sorry for the teacher, I am sorry for everyone who cares for you, and I feel that my failure will cause them worry and pain.
“I’m still thinking about going home for Chinese New Year.
I want to go back, but I’m sorry.
I have n’t officially paid my salary for so long after graduation.
“It’s a sign of mental health to feel guilty about your parents at this time.
But if you’re endless, taking self-blame as a living, or even serious enough to repay the parents’ parenting grace with death, then you should see a doctor.
For example: if you lose your parents’ deposit, and now you are guilty of jumping off the building, that is equivalent to giving your parents a double blow, losing their money and their lives.
What you should do now is go home, do more housework, discuss the future with your parents, so that they can see new ideas and hopes even without seeing your salary.
6, regret Regarding the previous lack of planning, careful preparation, trade resignation and other practices regret, and regret the more energy wasted, the less energy can really help action.”I used to work for a monthly salary of 2,000. I think it’s too little. I want to make a new place and earn more than this.
So he did not listen to the advice of others, resolutely resigned.
I went to a company and did n’t go because the food was n’t tasty. I now regret it because there are fewer and fewer job opportunities.
“One regret is reflection, and you can avoid making two mistakes.
Two regrets are cover-ups because you don’t want to change the behavior patterns that lead to frustration.
I regret three or four times, that is, holding regrets as a game.
A brave heart should be born with remorse.
Advice: Action to change is a potent cure for regrets.
7. Burnout. Tired of repetitive posting of resumes, interviews, rejections, and doing nothing to keep you up.
“I was not very happy when I received the interview notice.
The day I went, I remember that the sky was gray and dark, and I deliberately took the subway line 1 in the opposite direction, sat back, and finally walked slowly into the company’s door.
“Whether it is a main body problem or mental fatigue, fatigue is a signal that the body gives us: you should take a break.
It is likely that you have been rejected because of your tired face.
Timely breaks make job hunting easy.
8, irritability, irritability, strong emotional ups and downs, prone to anonymity, and often be angered by the words of others.
“During this period of employment, I ate at home, slept, watched TV, and washed clothes.
Once I wanted to do laundry at night. Mom said it was too late. Do n’t do it.
As soon as I heard it, I sat crying.
There seemed to be a lot of anger in my heart, and I wanted to cry and quarrel at every turn.
“Irritable and irritable because I have been depressed for too long.
Let the mind rain through.
You can write the words you keep in your heart on a piece of paper or tell someone.
9. Feeling unfair relationship, hukou, gender, appearance, or even marriage or not, more and more restrictions on recruitment, making job seekers feel unfair, and anger is increasing day by day.
“The most outrageous interviewer I met asked me what color my underwear was, and said it was a personality test!
At that time, I had the urge to splash his face, but I could not bear to work.
“Unfortunately, there is no pure fairness in this world.
Without realizing this, the mind can never be balanced.
Is the fate fair to those who were born in the flames of war in Gaza and those who were buried underground in Wenchuan?
Injustice can be the driving force behind the pursuit of fairness, rather than the truth of repeated life.
10, envy others have envy for those who have a job, but they are unable to change the status quo, so they feel more weak and inferior.
“Half a year ago, I quit my previous job, thinking at the time that it would be a big deal to review the postgraduate study at home.
But I really resigned, only to find it so difficult to maintain a peaceful state of mind!
Now I envy those who are nine to five!
“The real envy is appreciation. It gives us the desire to learn from others and makes our lives more perfect.
False envy is jealousy: “They went to fight for gold nine to five nights, why can I even find a little fat?
“Envy will only make you more painful, and getting up is the open shovel.
11, living in isolation, the more “homes” are frustrated the more times, the less motivation to go out looking for opportunities.
It ‘s a manifestation of this mentality if you do n’t leave home all day and indulge in the Internet world.
“In fact, I know a lot of brothers and sisters in Beijing, and they can also provide some information and opportunities.But I just don’t want to contact them, sometimes I feel tired even talking to people.
I don’t want to see people, it’s better to have a mouse hole to hide me.
“The situation of the otaku and otaku is different.
Some people try to escape the frustrations of reality. The result is often the degradation of social functions and their inability to integrate into social life.
Someone is recuperating and saving power to wake up.
Some people are just scratching their heads and don’t want to understand what they are going to do.
At this time it is best to seek some support and suggestions from others.
Who did not move the heart is far.
Even if you “home” in the house, don’t let your mind be paralyzed by false tranquility without competition and frustration.
12. Feeling contempt and disdain. Feeling disdain and contempt for certain phenomena encountered during job search, and therefore angering the entire workplace and even society.
“I went to a school to apply for a teacher, and as a result, the written test question turned out to be related to the principal himself. I also said, ‘If you don’t know the principal, you don’t know the school.
I’m really speechless. This kind of school keeps me from going in and I won’t go. There must be no major development.
“The appearance of contempt means inner approval.
People who despise the workplace just make excuses for their inadequacy.
Of course, once in a while, Q is a good way to relieve stress.
But don’t despise a person because a company despise the entire workplace and society.
13. The emptiness feels as long as one year. I want to find something to do but can’t continue, thinking that I’m wasting my life.
“I haven’t been down all day, watching the children downstairs playing enviously, I feel like a big man does nothing and wastes his life.
Take this “Spoken Translation”, and stared at those letters motionlessly, without turning over a page for more than half an hour, and saw nothing at all.
However, don’t pretend to read the book, it’s not easy for me.
“What can fill the empty space of the mind is action.
14, health problems, psychological problems cause physical reactions, headaches, stomach pains, colds and other symptoms.
“Before each interview, I had sour water in my stomach, and I went to the hospital to see it. The doctor said that he was not sick, maybe it was nervous.
“Pain is a signal of the body and a signal of the mind. It reminds us that our way of life should change.
For example, you have high blood pressure as soon as you make a speech, then you either don’t give a speech or participate in speech training until you get used to it.
15. Escape from reality Paralyze yourself with various excuses and strengthen the psychological defense mechanism to avoid interference from reality.
“I go to an internet cafe almost every day. I call it a resume, but I spend more time on games than looking for a job.
I always tell my parents that the environment is not good, and I will have a chance after a while.
But I also know that this is just self-deception and give myself a comfort.
“It is wise to evade strategically, otherwise we will be crushed.
But if you make yourself an “escape from professional households”, then all opportunities will definitely escape you without hesitation.